Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Wearing White

My heart has been so sad over something I read on Facebook yesterday. I've debated on posting this blog, but I need to get this off of my chest.
I'm sure most of you have seen the photo and story of the woman who fastened her baby to the train of her wedding gown in order for the baby to be part of the ceremony. I don't even want to debate that. I personally do not care to argue opinions on her choice to do that. Honestly, I just told my husband that I was tired of seeing it shared on Facebook.
Then, I saw it shared again yesterday. And the person who shared it was shaming her for having a baby out of wedlock. Then, the comments by her Facebook friends, continued to demean and shame her for this choice. And my heart broke into a million pieces. The same people doing this were using the Bible as a reason to do so. The Bible says no sex before marriage, therefore we can shame this woman for her decision. Right? No. So much no.
The Bible does say we should refrain from sex before marriage. Just because you followed that does not give you the right to shame someone who didn't. That is wrong on so many levels. Have you ever told a lie? Even a small fib? The Bible also says you shouldn't do that. Have you ever coveted something that didn't belong to you? Sin. Would you rather have Christians tell you "Yes that is wrong, but God still loves you and you can ask for forgiveness" or would you want them to basically make fun of you and tell you how horrible you are?
We have no idea the depth of this woman's story. We only know that she attached her baby on her wedding dress as she walked down the aisle. We have no way of knowing where she stands with Jesus. As someone who had a baby out of wedlock, had I not already known Christ when I read this post yesterday, it would have pushed me farther away from Christianity.
One commenter said she didn't understand women wearing white if they had engaged in premarital sex. Again, we don't know her story. Will Jesus not make us pure again?
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone,
the new is here!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Come now, let us settle the matter," says the LORD. "Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool
Isaiah 1:18
Social Media can be good or bad. It is what we make it. It can be an amazing tool for Christianity. There is the potential to reach so many people with His love. But we can't do that if we spew hatred in the same sentence that we profess His name. It won't work. The Great Commission tells us to preach His word and bring people to Him, not push them away. I'm not saying ignore sin. Sin is wrong. But it is all about the way you present it. LOVE people as His word is preached. We shouldn't just beat them down.
I'm guilty of this too. Maybe not on social media as much, but in my words. So this challenge is to myself as well as you. Let's make our words and Social Media a tool for Christ, not one that works against His kingdom.
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  1. Thanks for posting this! As an unwed mother of 3, I will be getting married in October 2015. At the time of my wedding, I will have a 3 year old, a 1 year old in Heaven, and a 6 month old. I posted on Facebook asking opinions on whether or not I should wear white. I am pleased to say that I received nothing but kind words and all of then basically said white was fine. Whatever works for me. :-)
    -Jessie Hollinghead

    1. My children's father and I have been together for 3 years and we have just never married.
      -Jessie Hollinghead


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