Tuesday, August 27, 2013

As My Daughters Grow Up

I did not watch the VMA's this week. In fact, I was sleeping while the rest of the world was being shocked by the performance of Miley Cyrus. I awoke the next morning to the constant chatter of it on social media. I finally broke down and watched the video, but I never could have prepared myself for what I would see.
This was not the Miley Cyrus that had, just years before, been a long haired beauty on the Disney Channel with her dad trying to hide the fact that she was Hannah Montana. This was not the girl that I watched little girls everywhere imitate and look up to.

The "girl" I saw on television this week was one who was desperate for any kind of attention she could get. Unfortunately, she is chasing after it in the wrong way and seeking the wrong attention. It made me sad--mostly because many people watching could see that, while she still can't. It's disappointing, and one has to wonder, what went wrong? What happened to Miley Cyrus?
As I watched the video of Miley's performance, I thought about my own daughters. I watched and I thought "This is only the beginning of the world my daughters are about to grow up in", and I feared for them. If anything, I hope that Miley has taught me something as a parent that I can pass on to my own girls.

This week, Miley Cyrus taught me how important it is to ensure that my daughters never feel like they have to use their bodies to get any kind of attention. I pray that my daughters grow up to be young women who are full of respect for themselves. I pray that they will be the type of women who see a young woman like Miley Cyrus and pray for her rather than turning to social media simply to berate her.
This whole "event" has drawn my focus onto how I will establish a foundation with my girls on which they can stand and know that acting in this way is not something they should ever stoop to. I want that foundation to be Jesus.

“All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be enslaved by anything. “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
—1 Corinthians 6:9-20 
They have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. But that is not the way you learned Christ!— assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
—Ephesians 4:19-24 
As my daughters grow up, I pray that they will cling to these truths. I pray that they grow into Godly young women who seek after Him first in everything. I pray that they never forget that they were bought with a price paid by our Savior--a price beyond anything we could ever fathom.

I look at my innocent little girl and her rose colored view of the world she still possesses and the thought of her losing that absolutely breaks my heart to the point of tears. I wish she didn't have to grow up, but she does, and Cate will too. They will grow up in a tarnished world that will only become more so with time. They will grow up in a world where performances like what the world was exposed to the other night will be considered the norm. In that world, I pray that my girls are the outcasts. I pray that they are different and that their differences allow them a platform to stand out and up for Christ.

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  1. I feel the same way about my girls, it's heart breaking! I sometimes feel like taking Lily out of public school in fear of what she will see or hear. I'm not ready for her to grow up or Sophia!

  2. I don't have girls but a herd of little boys and it is so hard watching them grow. But I wouldn't miss a minute of it.

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  4. I'm not sure what to think of Miley, I pray she sees that she doesn't have to act/dress that way. It is sad though, to see how innocent she was just a couple years ago. Just like our little kids. They're innocent now. All we can do is the best we know how. Raise them in the way of The Lord and pray they won't stray too far. There comes a time when they will all leave and make their own decisions - I just pray that the seed we've planted will take up roots so when that decision time comes... they make the right one's.


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