Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Big Sister

Today I have to brag on Barrett's big sister, Audrey. While in the store tonight she said, "Mommy, I need to get a card for Barrett". When I asked her what kind, she said "a brother card". The only brother card we could find was a birthday card, so that's what we got. There was no way I could tell her no. So we bought Barrett a blue brother birthday card for her to send to him. Her love for her brother is such a blessing to me.

When I first explained to her that Barrett had gone to heaven, she asked me if she was still a big sister. Of course I told her yes. Since then we've had another conversation about that. It went a little something like this:

Audrey: Mommy am I still a big sister?

Me: Yes, baby. Even though Barrett isn't here with us, he is still your little brother.
Barrett's first card

Audrey: But mommy, how can I be a big sister if the baby isn't here?

Me: Well, one day we will see him again and he can hug his big sister for the first time. You will always be his big sister.

It is very important to me that Audrey understand that her brother was a life--even though she didn't get to meet him. We talk about him often, and involve him in a lot of our conversations. She thinks it is pretty cool that her little brother is an angel.

It really made me smile today to see her want to do something for Barrett. It made me a little sad to know that we can never give him birthday cards, but I think Audrey has started a great tradition--I think that by allowing her to give these messages to him, she will one day have them to look back on and treasure.

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